One of the daily challenges of life is:
“How do I get myself to do what I want?”
The answer is hidden in understanding how we respond to expectations, and offers exciting insight into ourselves.
The 4 Tendencies
“We all face two kinds of expectations,” says author Gretchen Rubin, “outer expectations (meet work deadlines, answer a request from a friend) and inner expectations (keep a New Year’s resolution, start to meditate).”
Our response to expectations determines our “Tendency.”
The four tendencies are Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.
Know Your Tendency
Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel?
“Knowing our Tendency,” according to Rubin, “can help us set up situations in ways that make it more likely that we’ll achieve our aims. We can make better decisions, meet deadlines, keep our promises to ourselves, suffer less stress, and engage more deeply with others.”
Knowing your tendency begins with a simple self assessment.
Which of the following statements is more true for you?
Upholder: “I do what others expect of me – and what I expect from myself.”
Questionner: “I do what I think is best according to my judgement If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.”
Obliger: “I do what I have to do. I hate to let others down but I often let myself down.”
Rebel: “I do what I want in my own way. If you tell me to do something, I’m less likely to do it.”
What is your tendency?
Are you a rebel? 🙂
Or… an Upholder, Questioner, or Obliger?
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